Yesterday I called my best friend "tina". I could tell by the sound of her voice that something was on her mind. Something she just had to tell me but wasnt sure how to tell me. Instantly I had to find out what it was tina was trying to hide. She kept persisting that there was nothing to be told, I pushed on and kept asking "are you sure? cuz it sounds like there is." and sure enough-I was right.You see, Tina has a boyfriend named mike, she loves her boyfriend much. Just the other day she told me they talk about getting married a couple years down the road. So when Tina told me that she had cheated on Mike, I was dumbfounded. It made no sense to me that this girl c0uld cheat on this man she "claims" to love and want to spend the rest of her life with. I was extremely disappointed in her choices. I told Tina that she needs to get her act together and tell mike what she did. She said she doesnt want to, and that makes me think again...How can you knowingly hurt someone and just move on without it eating you from the inside out? Does tina have no heart with this situation? In my opinion if tina is so scared of the consequences then she shouldnt have cheated.
Later on that day (haha) I was talking to my mom about tina and the WHOLE story. My dad was in the same room and just had to put in his two cents. Right when I said Tina cheated on Mike. My dad said "whats it matter? they arent married" Which i disagreed with..In my opinion whether you are married or not cheating still hurts and it is still a lost of trust. He then persisted to say that unless you tell the guy if this is an open or closed relationships he has free raine to date whom ever he pleases..this made me realize how completely simple men are made to be.
I have noticed that alot of men (not all) require that we women point out the obvious or just point blank say what we want or how we feel because men cant tell the difference. I have to tell a man when I love him, when i want to have sex, when i want a hug, when i dont want a hug, when i want to cuddle, when i just want to hold his hand, when i want to go out to eat, when i want to just go for a walk, or even when i just want to talk. I have to bluntly say "I WANT...." and then he gets it..Instead of just obviously shivering on the couch wanting him to come over and lay with me so i can get warm, instead throws a blanket on me and says "better." --by the way: Im not!! Instead i have to say "LAY WITH ME!" and then you hear this "oh uh okay" as if they were caught off gaurd..Maybe i am wrong..maybe i still have ALOT to learn about men. But just the fact that next time im in a relationship i have to tell the guy "dont date, sleep, or have relations with any other girl BUT me..you are with me and only me, no one else" to me that is pathetic and a waste of words because in my opinion a guy should already know that when he is in a relationship it is closed...just DONT CHEAT!! its wrong..its annoying to hear about it on the phone with your best friend who just did it...its hurtful to the other person who does nothing but love you and then sleep with someone else...just messed up.
