Enough is ENOUGH!!!!

I am lost. I am lost because I am confused. When we are in a bad relationship, or in any relationship we see for ourselves as bad, why do we stay? Why is THAT enough for us? I truely feel it is because we are afraid of what may come after. Will you find someone else? Can you move on? What if you don't find anyone else?


Today my very good friend "Anna" was upset with her boyfriend "Joe". All she wanted to do was see him and spend some time with him. Turns out this whole time Joe was in the same area as Anna and he neglected to even tell her. A constant let down she faces every morning with a side of babys cry as her morning music. So I asked her this-When is this relationship enough? When is this relationship going to be just enough for you? her response "It would be enough if he would just stop doing the stuff that he does!" I sat there in silence because I grew even more lost then before I had asked the question.


Why do we have to wait for enough to actually be ENOUGH. I feel we are constantly trying to fix men into something we dream of. We have this image of this man on a white horse putting aside his life to save ours. A dream to be saved by a selfless man on a white horse. But even he needs training too. God, it's like I am talking about a dog. Men are not dogs, but they sure need training like them. Everyone wants that perfect K-9 but you cant get that perfect dog unless you train it. Same goes for men. You cant get that PERFECT guy for you unless he is trained to your perfections. But would that be enough for him?

We never blame ourselves for staying either. It's always "Loves" fault for us staying. "If I didn't love him so much I wouldnt stay?" And then we blame our future as if that cant be altered for our own sanity. No matter what serious relationship you are in, you will ALWAYS see them in your future. They are who you know, so why wouldnt you see them in your future? Of course you can not see anyone else, you havent met anyone else.

So, when is it enough? When is any relationship enough for you? Do you stay and train a hellen keller or do you walk away? Maybe it is right to stay. If you truely love someone you should stay and help them improve themselves. As that maybe the case for marriages, that is not the case for relationships. From being around my friends and listening to them talk about their relationships my best advice to anyone who is in a relationship that constantly has its faults. a Negative feeling in the pit of your stomach-Don't waste your time. You are just asking for more let downs and heartbreaks. It is easier said then done, believe me I know. Dont assume I am writing this without any experience. I have been in the SAME relationships, asking the SAME questions, and then listening to the SAME stories being told by my friends. It is a waste of time fixing someone for youself who never wanted to be fixed for you in the first place. When you are finally in a good relationship, the guy treats you the way you deserve to be treated and doesnt need any personality training, then that is when the relationship is enough.